Comments on: Q4: Kerri http://genstuck.wbur.org/blog/kerri/2168/ Twelve 20-somethings chronicle their lives for WBUR. Fri, 07 Dec 2012 19:12:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.9.3 By: Kerri Axelrod http://genstuck.wbur.org/blog/kerri/2168/#comment-214 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 17:14:00 +0000 http://genstuck.wbur.org/?p=2168#comment-214 I can’t wait to see what life has in store for you lady. Something exciting is on the horizon. I can feel it.

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By: Kara Wiseman http://genstuck.wbur.org/blog/kerri/2168/#comment-213 Sat, 27 Oct 2012 06:46:00 +0000 http://genstuck.wbur.org/?p=2168#comment-213 Sadly, I have been accused by many (mainly my family), that I feel a sense of entitlement when it comes to my career and life. I did always believe that if you hustled hard and were determined, life would work out the way you wanted it to be. As a co-worker of Kerri’s, who lived in NYC for many years, worked for top television programs at CBS, and is now serving at a restaurant in Boston and going through the job-hunt process, it is very sad and hard on my ego and confidence. My family has taught me that these feelings are my own issues and that no one ever said life was easy or fair. You deal with it and you keep working towards your goals and dreams. That is what determines the life and person you will be. I can honestly say, I hope one day I look back at this difficult period in my life and say it was the best lesson I could of ever received!

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By: Kara Wiseman http://genstuck.wbur.org/blog/kerri/2168/#comment-212 Sat, 27 Oct 2012 06:39:00 +0000 http://genstuck.wbur.org/?p=2168#comment-212 Awesome comment, Allan!

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By: Sharon http://genstuck.wbur.org/blog/kerri/2168/#comment-193 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 18:49:00 +0000 http://genstuck.wbur.org/?p=2168#comment-193 Some thoughts from a middle-aged, fully employed healthcare consultant. There are 2 comments in your piece on which I ask you to reflect. The first expresses the assumption that hard work and playing by the rules will pay off. The pay off, I presume, means financial success allowing you to live a life style worthy of the work. In reality, the results don’t always add up, many times unfairly. A person that feels entitled will assume that x (hard work) + y (playing by the rules) = z (pay off). The problem is that none of these are fixed. Let’s say z is a promotion. You are settling in to your new position and know exactly what is expected of you. Then, one day you find out your promoter just got fired. Their job is now being taken over by someone that doesn’t like you very much. Guess what, the formula for you just got re-calculated. It’s common for an employer to simply look at the formula and find it doesn’t work the way they want. And what you have to stomach is that there’s nothing you can do about it but try and overcome it. Your second comment is about the American Dream. You state the dream teaches us “….we all have the right to a better life…” The word right is emblematic of entitlement. There is no right, there is a chance for the American Dream. The chance of reaching it is quickly changing. Sadly, there are global forces at work making it harder for individual Americans to keep pace. The current global labor formula shows workers in India or China will accept harder work + unfair rules = lower payoff. That’s something we will just have to chew.
In essence, we must adjust our world view. How we measure success must be adjusted. Nothing will be given to us, it must be hard won. And always, global-sized business entities (hello GOP president) will be making it harder and harder.

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By: Allan Morrison http://genstuck.wbur.org/blog/kerri/2168/#comment-192 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 18:29:00 +0000 http://genstuck.wbur.org/?p=2168#comment-192 Good luck, but be patient. We didn’t have an internet in 1987 when I graduated. There was a recession on and there were pretty much no jobs. We had to make due. I am now a healthy, happy and well paid professional, but when I got out I:

Assembled pregnancy testers for cows
Sold encyclopedias
Worked as an editorial assistant for a little bit more than it cost me to get to the office
Washed Limousines on the weekend
Wrote and signed a letter to a customer apologizing for being stupid (under direct orders)

and a whole lot of other things. Nobody owes you anything. You probably know that but you have to own it too. That’s when you can just go into that low paid, unappreciated gig and get out of it what there is in it and nothing more. You do have to make your own future, but you have to live in your own present as well. It is what it is and it will leave it’s mark on you. How that turns out is partly up to you.

Do you time where you must and keep trying. You will get to the other side, but nobody knows how yet. You just will.

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By: Matthew Karlsson http://genstuck.wbur.org/blog/kerri/2168/#comment-191 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 17:17:00 +0000 http://genstuck.wbur.org/?p=2168#comment-191 There is nothing wrong with being ambitious and working hard towards a goal, and if others try to deny you that, then it seems more out of jealousy than anything else.

That being said, there should be no entitlement regarding employment and a livable wage.

Yes, as a nation we should focus on policies that move us in the direction of full employment and and wages sufficient to support a life, not just an existence, but in the grand scheme of things, the responsibility lies with the job seeker to make themselves marketable, not the other way around.

There are too many students who waste money, go to college and come out with degrees in what amounts to basket weaving, which are of no marketable value what so ever, and then complain when they can’t get a job. (If you majored in English, History, Political Science, Womens Studies, and to a lesser extent Psychology, with which you can’t do anything without a PhD, that’s you.)

Yes, college is about growing us into better individuals to function in a multicultural society and is about breadth, not jut focus, and all those other lovely sounding Liberal Arts concepts, but it’s also about preparing young adults for the workforce. If working towards being employable wasn’t a focus in college studies, then there’s the problem, and there really isn’t anyone else to blame.

Those who I have some more compassion for are those who pursued a solid professional or hard science degree and still can’t get employment.

We need to work as hard as we can as a nation to move ourselves in the direction where employment with a liveable wage is attainable for all, but this needs to be a high level goal, not an entitlement, or we will start slipping down the wrong path.

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By: Kerri Axelrod http://genstuck.wbur.org/blog/kerri/2168/#comment-189 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 14:35:00 +0000 http://genstuck.wbur.org/?p=2168#comment-189 Very well put. I could not have said it better. Thank you for reading and for sharing your story.

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By: Kerri Axelrod http://genstuck.wbur.org/blog/kerri/2168/#comment-188 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 14:33:00 +0000 http://genstuck.wbur.org/?p=2168#comment-188 Thanks, christine. I completely agree. I never felt that I was “too good” to do anything. Rather, I just wanted more of a challenge and was willing to work hard to get there. It sounds like you are doing a great job with your current position, and I’m sure that your hard work will pay off in the end. Thanks for reading and for commenting!

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By: Kerri Axelrod http://genstuck.wbur.org/blog/kerri/2168/#comment-187 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 14:29:00 +0000 http://genstuck.wbur.org/?p=2168#comment-187 Thanks for your comment. I think perhaps I was not clear enough in my post so let me try to explain a little better. I always got all of my work done and I never shirked my responsibilities because I was “too good” to do them. I would not have received a promotion if that were the case. In fact, I would often stay at the office three hours after my co-workers just so I could accomplish all of my work as well as the extra projects that were given. This is the opposite of lazy if you ask me.

My comment about looking back and pushing aside projects that were less glamourous, wasn’t to imply that I didn’t get things done, because I always got all of my work done, rather it was an honest comment about how I would do things different with six more years of professional experience under my belt. I think we all could all pinpoint moments from our first jobs and say I would have handled that situation differently given my experience now. With time grows maturity and experience and that was all I was trying to say.

I’m not always proud of the way I feel, and I think I state that clearly, but I did do my best to give an honest and open answer and that in itself on the topic was difficult to do. Thanks for reading and look forward to hearing your feedback on additional posts.

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By: Vincent Capone http://genstuck.wbur.org/blog/kerri/2168/#comment-184 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 04:07:00 +0000 http://genstuck.wbur.org/?p=2168#comment-184 Well said!

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